11/18/2014

EMILY GIFFIN’S “HEART OF THE MATTER”: AN AFFAIR IN THE EYES OF THE WIFE AND THE MISTRESS


RATING GUIDE:
 
5 – A keeper!   
4 – Very good
3 –  Passable
2 –  I’d rather read a telephone book
1 – An absolute bomb.  Read at your own risk!
0 – Nothing will compensate for what I lost reading this book 


Emily Giffin tries to dissect the anatomy of an affair from the female point of view in her book, “Heart of the Matter”.

“Heart of the Matter” is the story of two women --- Tessa, the wife of a handsome, kind-hearted and successful surgeon named Nick, and Beverly, a self-made woman and a single mother to a beautiful boy named Charlie.  Even though they both seem to lead enviable lives are actually secretly unhappy and discontent.  Tessa leads a comfortable life, is married to the love of her life and yet can’t seem to shake off the feeling that something is wrong with her life and her marriage.  Meanwhile, Beverly’s successful career in law hasn’t shielded her from the difficulties of raising a child alone, as well as her own desire to have a companion.

The women’s lives change forever when Charlie becomes Nick’s patient.  Though Beverly tries to control her emotions, she finds herself falling for Nick.  Nick, even though he loves his wife and family, feels alone in his own marriage.  Soon, the two develop a friendship … which leads to an affair.  How will Tessa and Beverly deal with this act of infidelity?

Unlike many books for women that are fluffy tales about romance or hot sex or being a bitch to other women, Emily Giffin’s book is a book that tackles a number of serious matters such as (early) midlife crisis, emotional affairs and infidelity.  If you want a distraction from your own life problems, you might want to skip this book.  However, if you want to read a fairly realistic book that tackles many of the issues that confront women and families today, then this is a good book to consider.

The best part about this book is that Giffin’s book neither condemns nor condones affairs and the people who get involved in these types of relationships.  It is more of an analysis of how affairs evolve.  Whether they like it or not, women will identify with the two women in this book.  Married women readers, however, might view this book as a horror story, for in this book, even a marriage that appears to be full of love, isn’t safe from the prospect of infidelity.

Women generally condemn affairs and women who get involved with married men.  This book, however, presents the Other Woman’s side with respect and empathy.  Although I’m sure many of us want to condemn the Other Woman as a gold-digging slut, Emily Giffin’s book points out something that many of us refuse to accept:  that sometimes, oftentimes, the Other Woman is really just an ordinary woman who happens to fall in love with a married man. 

It would have been interesting had Giffin included Nick’s point of view in the story.  In the book, we only get to know about Nick from either Tessa or Beverly’s point of view.  I would have wanted to hear what Nick had to say about his infidelity.

While Giffin paints a very objective picture of infidelity, she also makes a strong statement about it:  that in any affair, no one really wins, and it’s the children who suffer the most.

RATING:  4

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